When I spoke to a Christian that does not believe in gay relations, she thinks that it is just un-natural as, we were created to be with someone from the other sex and not the same sex. She said she wouldn't dislike somebody just on the basis of being gay, but she would however feel un comfortable if the topic of 'homosexuals' would be brought up. But she feels she would be judges by the gay community, because of her beliefs and opinions. She doesn't believe in gay relations because she grew up with the fact that it is in fact wrong. Her parents had influenced her decision, but as she grows older she may choose to have more of a tolerance with gay relations, but she doesn't know because of what her family has grown up with, what is wrong and what is right. Her parents would let her chose for she as to what she believes is right and what is wrong, and what is okay and what is not.   

In reference to the bible, men who engaged in same sex relations, were punished and blinded so that they could not find the door, to find there "mates” So, in other words god is punishing these men for loving who they love? And saying that he did not create this's abomination? In many places in the bible it is said that it is an ABOMINATION to love the same sex and engage in sexual relations with the same sex. 

Genesis 19:14


19 The two angels arrived at Sodom in the evening, and Lot was sitting in the gateway of the city. When he saw them, he got up to meet them and bowed down with his face to the ground. 2 “My lords,” he said, “please turn aside to your servant’s house. You can wash your feet and spend the night and then go on your way early in the morning.”

“No,” they answered, “we will spend the night in the square.”

3 But he insisted so strongly that they did go with him and entered his house. He prepared a meal for them, baking bread without yeast, and they ate. 4 Before they had gone to bed, all the men from every part of the city of Sodom—both young and old—surrounded the house.5 They called to Lot, “Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us so that we can have sex with them.”

6 Lot went outside to meet them and shut the door behind him 7 and said, “No, my friends. Don’t do this wicked thing. 8 Look, I have two daughters who have never slept with a man. Let me bring them out to you, and you can do what you like with them. But don’t do anything to these men, for they have come under the protection of my roof.”

9 “Get out of our way,” they replied. “This fellow came here as a foreigner, and now he wants to play the judge! We’ll treat you worse than them.” They kept bringing pressure on Lot and moved forward to break down the door.

10 But the men inside reached out and pulled Lot back into the house and shut the door.11 Then they struck the men who were at the door of the house, young and old, with blindness so that they could not find the door.

12 The two men said to Lot, “Do you have anyone else here—sons-in-law, sons or daughters, or anyone else in the city who belongs to you? Get them out of here, 13 because we are going to destroy this place. The outcry to the Lord against its people is so great that he has sent us to destroy it.”

14 So Lot went out and spoke to his sons-in-law, who were pledged to marry[a] his daughters. He said, “Hurry and get out of this place, because the Lord is about to destroy the city!” But his sons-in-law thought he was joking.

I wanted to share a story of somebody that had trouble going through coming out to her family that is from a strong Christian background, this is her story.

I was 23 years old and studying in grad-school overseas when I was accidentally outed to my parents. I started staying up all night on the phone with them, talking and arguing about if it was okay. They used my faith against me, saying that "if you don't change we're going to give up on you and God is going to give up on you" and "we don't even know you anymore" and "you are destroying this family." Going home made it worse because I was shamed into telling no one and restricted to staying home.

I was suicidal and they told me that it was "spiritual oppression" to try to pressure me to change. They took me to the doctor to get medication to stave off the depression but then used the money they spent on that to guilt me to change, telling me to pay it back if I continued to "dishonour" them. They finally told me that, if I left the house to visit my girlfriend, I was not welcome back. I left. They lifted that ban a year later, but our relationship is still strained.

I don't think most people here really see us with animosity, or if they do, they hide it. But we are definitely viewed as weird. A lot of people stare or seem uncomfortable or uncertain if they see us holding hands. One man said "aww how sweet" but that was a little awkward too because it's strange to get so much notice for your relationship when you just want it to feel normal. No one would stop and say "how sweet" to a straight couple holding hands.

At the present time, many gays are judged and treated different to others that are attracted to the 'right' sex and not the same sex. There are many stereotypes of gays and lesbians being males are girlie and very feminine, as this may be the case for some gays, but this may not be the case for others. Some men that are gay, could be really manly, hate shopping, love sports and not care what they look like. But that is society's was of judging and stereotyping everybody, and making them feel uncomfortable.

After speaking to a lesbian, she said she had a Christian background growing up, but was not overly Christian, being as she did not necessarily go to church often, but she is still a strong believer that there is a god out there no matter who you believe in or what kind of god, she has a strong feeling that (god, Buddha, Muhammad) are real and the real message is love.

She never really spoke to her family about god, but they know where she stands with her beliefs and they don't question her nor does she feel that her family wants to change her sexuality.

As far as being 'gay' is concerned, she feels that, that is societies label and doesn't interfere with her faith at all nor is it relevant. She just knows that it is love, and in her opinion, love is love.

When she could distinguish between boys and girls she had always known that she had always felt more attracted to girls. And didn't just 'choose' to become gay. As said in the bible,

Leviticus: 22 "no man/ woman is to have sexual relations with another man/woman, god hates that"

But this woman had felt the surge towards woman, from such an early age. And is what the bible saying that god had made a mistake? Or is he saying that 'gays' are going against his will?

When listing to the outside influences she tries to ignore it, but she says it is not always that easy, she listens to her intuition and does what feels right for her. In answer to the question 'why she believes  in god' is because she feels connected to something bigger than  where we are now and some things she can just feel and she can't explain her faith any further than that.